Richard Clayton
Founder & CEO
"When my marriage is harmonious, everything in my life seems to go much smoother."
I once read that we are never more emotional, upset or in pain than when our
primary relationship is threatened. I related to this right away.
As we've researched and built the2ofyou.com, we've heard couple after couple
concur. Nodding their heads enthusiastically, they would tell us with a raw
sincerity about their struggles, their successes, their counseling experiences,
or how they just wanted to connect better with each other.
Keeping the connection
It soon became apparent that "keeping the connection" spoke to people. That's
what has kept us going while developing the2ofyou, and we are proud now to
offer it to you. We're also humbled by the openness in which people shared
their innermost lives to help us get here.
So whether we just forget to connect, or we deliberately hold back waiting for
our partner to go first, or we get lazy, consumed, or too distant to remember
why we got together in the first place, when we lose the connection we often
need some help to get it back. I know this to be true because it happens to me.
Focus on the good
Yet books and therapy will only get you so far. To feel connected we have to
focus on the good in each other and our relationship. It is the positive,
poignant and fun everyday interactions that build the strength of your
relationship. The2ofyou.com has been designed to facilitate just that.
Connection is empowering. It is vital to both partners in a couple. When we
feel connected we can solve our problems, achieve our goals, and conquer the world.
So I invite you to sign up, try the2ofyou.com, connect, and send us your feedback.
Jan Stribolt, LFMT
Director of Content
"People instinctively desire a deeply loving relationship with a life partner."
Yet staying connected with a partner over time can be difficult. We understand why and how couples grow apart. Quite often, the reasons are to be expected and are a natural component of a committed relationship.
With this in mind, the goals of the2ofyou are:
- to help you and your partner interact effectively as a couple,
- to see each other as a positive resource,
- to be each other�s best friend and best possible source of inspiration and positive feeling.
These are critical parts of a healthy, happy relationship. Strengthening and growing this positive feeling is the core the2ofyou.
Designed to Help you Reconnect
Action is fundamental to the2ofyou approach. The2ofyou is not just about learning a concept or an idea – you actually have to do things with each other. "Interactive behavior change," we call this. All of our concepts, exercises and programs are clinically based and have been proved to improve relationships when applied on a consistent basis. The2ofyou enhances these time-tested elements with tools of modern technology to make strengtheining your relationship easy, accessible, interactive, fun, and private – between the two ofyou.
Positive and Abundance-Based
When we feel better, we act better and we feel connected. The2ofyou's positive, "abundance-based" approach is how we help you cultivate the love you want. We want you and your partner to be deeply connected — to receive from each other what you need to be the best mate you can. The2ofyou aims to help you feel positive and good from the beginning. We don�t want to focus first on problems; they will be addressed more easily when you are feeling better and more connected as a couple. In fact, when you feel connected, many will just solve themselves.
I�ve been helping couples for over 30 years. I've learned that establishing or reestablishing each other as a positive resource is a huge part of feeling positive about your relationship. Being able to know what to do, and then regularly applying the principles, is the remainder of the challenge.
I believe we have created a highly accessible, affordable and effective relationship tool that can help you succeed in these challenges. Please give it a try and see for yourself.
The2ofyou has lots of interactive content and tools to make connecting and reconnecting with your partner easy and fun.
Activities
Quick, entertaining quizzes will help you to learn more about each other and enjoy the process.
Goals
Sharing and creating individual and joint goals is an important part of a healthy life together. The2ofyou makes it easy to share and track your plans and dreams.
Personal and Shared Journals
Few things help rekindle the feeling of romance like reading old love letters. In the age of email finding those romantic messages is very difficult. the2ofyou�s Journal is your virtual shoe box for love letters, emails, and shared and private thoughts and memories. Keep you special thoughts at your fingertips.
Shared Albums
Creating a photo album is not just fun but a great way to share moments that inspire and make you both feel good. Upload your favorite photos, your wedding, vacations, your child�s first birthday.
Shared Calendar
Your shared calendar is a wonderful way to keep connected to each other. Not only is this a place to log and synchronize your individual goals but a perfect place to begin to plan shared activities.
Reconnecting and staying connected has never been easier and more fun.
Trial — FREE
Use all the features of the2ofyou.com FREE for a month to
see how it works for you. After a month, if you decide not to subscribe
you'll still have access indefinitely to everything you've done during
your trial.
Monthly — $19
Subscribe month-to-month for just $19 a month - around the cost of one self-help book.
6 Months — $99 (save $15)
Save on a six-month subscription - less than the cost of one typical therapy session.
1 Year — $179 (save $49)
Get a full year of work on your relationship - it's like 2-1/2 months for free.
Richard Clayton — Founder and CEO
As CEO of the2ofyou, Richard is responsible for overseeing the
company's strategic direction, planning and implementation. A
native of Australia, Richard has 15 years business and management
experience. Prior to conceiving the2ofyou, Richard worked for
global oil and gas giant Royal Dutch Shell; Kiboodle.com.au, an
e-marketplace start-up; and Medibank Private Limited,
Australia�s largest health insurer. He has worked in South
East Asia, London and the United States, and began his early
career in the military and then as a small business entrepreneur.
Richard holds a Bachelor of Commerce in Management and Marketing
from Bond University, Australia and has successfully completed
the Management Development Program at the Melbourne Business
Schools Mt Eliza Centre for Executive Education.
He currently lives in San Francisco with his wife, daughter, cat
and dog.
Jan Stribolt, MS, LMFT — Cofounder and Director of Content
Jan is a licensed Marriage and Family therapist in private practice in San Francisco and nearby Marin County. He has been practicing psychotherapy for over 30 years, training in the Psychodynamic, Systems and Cognitive Behavioural modalities. In addition to his private practice, Jan worked at Family Service Agency in Marin and with Navy dependents at The Centre for Individual and Family Counseling near Mare Island in Vallejo. Jan�s interest in counseling began when he worked in corrections at San Francisco Juvenile Hall and the Marin County Honor Farm for adult offenders. He taught group and family therapy as part of The College of San Mateo Alcohol and Other Drug Studies' Certificate Program. He holds a Bachelor of Arts in Philosophy and Psychology from Sonoma State University and a Masters of Science in Counseling from San Francisco State University. Jan is member of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists.
Jim Edlin — Cofounder and Director of Technology
Jim is a veteran web and personal computing entrepreneur. He was a cofounder of PC Magazine, of personal computer software company Bruce & James Inc., and of web/multimedia consultancy The HyperMedia Group Inc. among other businesses. Jim and his wife, Eve, recently celebrated their 21st wedding anniversary; they live in San Francisco with their teeanage son, yellow lab, corn snake and gecko. He wishes the2ofyou.com had been invented sooner.
Aaron Cronan — Cofounder
Aaron is an attorney who has gained a balanced mix of litigation, information security and electronic discovery experience over the last 10 years. He spent six years in intellectual property and business litigation for fortune 1000 clients. Cronan�s other passion is helping artists make a good living from their art. His music clients all have a common bond, they are incredibly talented and have the drive to succeed in an often cruel industry. Cronan represents bands, composers, sound designers, and professional musicians.
BOARD OF ADVISORS
Dominick Robinson, MS — Level 1 Gottman Certified Therapist
Dominick Robertson is a counselor and therapist in private practice in Oregon. Prior to becoming a professional therapist, Mr. Robertson spent much of his career with Hewlett-Packard in executive and management positions around the globe. He holds a Masters degree in Mental Health Counseling from Southern Oregon University and is a Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist, a Level I certified Gottman marital therapist, and a certified PAIRS (Practical Application of Intimate Relationship Skills) instructor. Mr. Robertson teaches psychology at Southern Oregon University and Marylhurst University and belongs to both the American Counseling Association and the Oregon Counseling Association.
Bob Lieberman, MS
Bob Lieberman runs a creativity coaching and consulting practice in Portland OR. He has over forty years experience in virtually all aspects of the software business from management and sales to engineering and education. During his career, Mr. Lieberman has made key creative contributions to ground-breaking commercial products from McDonnell-Douglas, Sybase and Avalon Software. He also teaches and performs music professionally. A poised and engaging educator, a trained mediator and a certified project manager Mr. Lieberman holds a Masters of Science in Computer Science from Carnegie-Mellon University.
CREDITS
In addition to the above, key contributors to the2ofyou.com include:
- Emily Steen / Built Studios — Design
- Kjell Ostlund, Jesse Pollack / The Other Room — Original prototype
TECHNOLOGIES
The2ofyou.com uses the following technologies and suppliers:
- Railo 3.1 CFML Application Server
- MySQL
- Prototype and Scriptaculous Javascript Frameworks
- Alurium Hosting
- Uservoice
